You’ve probably read articles on how girls should behave towards each other… The Dos and Don’ts of the female gender..heck!! There’s a list tagged as the Girl code. In an effort to counteract or imitate the Guy code..we’ve limited our lives to certain rules that don’t really matter… Below are certain things that are essential in a gurl-ship🤭
1. It’s vital that you’re a positive vibe to hang around…
Do not be the friend that makes others change directions when they see you approach because they can’t put up with your ego or bad mouth.. Expel positivity around your clique,dispel any form of negativity… Encourage and support your friends.Be the friend they can call on when they’re going through a rough patch
2. Integrity is of the essence…
You shouldn’t go around telling others (even mutual friends) abt things told to you in confidence..It does a lot of harm to friendships..Even when you’re not in good terms with that friend…it’s easy to just shut up than to stir up a lot of problems…Nobody wants to be friends with a news station🙄…In addition,You shouldn’t pick sides when two of your friends have an issue…attempt to help them resolve the issue without seeming inclined to one of them..Say what needs to be said and avoid throwing shades at any of them..
3. Avoid being Judgemental…
It’s true that you’re allowed to have your opinion but you’re not obligated to have your friends concur to them..People have different thoughts no matter how similar they are..Don’t force your opinion on your friends..don’t make them feel extra bad for a mistake they made or make them feel dumb about a wrong decision you think they’re about to make..The truth is what works for you might not work for another person… Different strokes yea…Advice when necessary and keep your judgemental thoughts to your self…nobody needs those harsh words pricking them..When you’re tagged as being judgemental be sure that you’ll be the last person they approach with an issue..
4. Deter from unnecessary arguments and silent competitions..
Your friend is not you…You can’t keep comparing and contrasting .when u do that you discover you want to be better them..Be fine with who you are..Make changes where needed,because you see the need to not because you want to compete..A lot of girls go out of their ways to be better than a friend…Friends look out for each other and appreciate their differences not attempt to change who they are to prove a point..
5. Build healthy gurl-ships with effective communication..
Talk abt your goals and dreams,there’s seriously more to conversations than talking about boys and girls who did or didn’t do things…Let’s move the girl team higher.. beyond trivialities..Text a friend about how awesome she is!!
6. Lastly,Look out for each other’s back..
Even if you won’t defend a friend when you hear stuff being said about her…carefully exit the discussion without saying a word.. Nobody’s gon look out for us..if we don’t do it ourselves..The female gender goes through a lot of issues, don’t add fighting over a guy to it..Diplomatically resolve any issues you have pertaining a male..Don’t attempt to take a sister’s man from her or make efforts to destroy what they have going on for them..If it is entirely necessary to date a friend’s ex..check it out with her first to ensure it’s okay and she’s past it(trust me,u don’t wanna be a third wheel)..Do not do or say things with the intentions of hurting a sister.